Making the Best of the Time We Have

Caves can be dark places.
Caves can be dark places.

Yesterday was New Year’s Day and it proved to be quite a lazy day for my family. We were up really late celebrating and we were running on half-charged batteries. We all napped at some point, including the dogs. The TNT Network was running the “Lord of the Rings” trilogy back-to-back. Now, if you ever have the desire to veg in front of the television for a day, there’s your perfect excuse.

Those movies have always captivated my attention along with a million others. Evil forces try to take over the world and a very unlikely underdog, a Hobbit, sets out to save it along with nine others to help him, but in the end, his best friend is the one who stays by his side to complete the quest. It’s a beautiful story of friendship. Good wins over evil and the scenery is stunning. It makes me want to visit New Zealand even though it’s like a twenty hour flight.

One of my favorite scenes of all time occurs in the first movie. They are in a cave and are being pursued by evil forces. The little Hobbit, Frodo, says: “I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.” Gandalf, the wizard, replies,” So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. There are other forces at work in this world, Frodo, besides the will of evil. Bilbo was meant to find the Ring. In which case, you were also meant to have it and that is an encouraging thought.”

Those are timeless words which hold timeless truth. We often wish we weren’t living during these times, during a recession, during terrorist plots, during wars… But, that is not for us to decide. We must decide what to do with the time we are given. We can decide to trust that God put us here in this moment at this time for a reason and like Frodo, do our very best to see good win.

The writer of the trilogy was a man named J.R.R. Tolkein. He was born in 1892 and was a devout Christian. He was also a professor at Oxford in England with another man named C.S. Lewis. Lewis was an atheist when they met, but in time, Tolkein’s faith rubbed off on Lewis and he became a Christian. He went on to write, “The Chronicles of Narnia,” another wildly popular, Christian based, good always wins in the end, book.

You never know what may happen when you share your faith. Sometimes, it may be nothing. Sometimes, you may get to witness a small change in someone. Sometimes, incredible things can happen and the world is changed forever. Like Frodo, the choice of what to do with our time is ours to make. What will we do? Feel free to comment.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

Resolutions

Happy 2014!
Happy 2014!

Well, the New Year is officially here. Aren’t you glad we mostly use debit cards now instead of checks, so you don’t have to remember to write 2014 instead of 2013? If you are anything like me, you may be a little tired today. I rarely stay up til midnight anymore. I have come to really appreciate the quiet of mornings and if you sleep til 10:00, you missed it.

So, if you are having a lazy day watching football games, enjoy yourself. We are beginning a brand new year and it’s full of promise and possibility. How can you make changes in 2014 to make yourself happier? Is there a dream you would like to explore? Is there a relationship you would like to mend? Could your marriage be stronger? Maybe you would like to draw a little closer to God.

Last year I made the resolution to be more intentional in all aspects of my life. By being intentional, I had to think about making time to exercise. I had to think about choosing an apple over a cookie. I had to think about how to carve out daily time to read the Bible.

I had to think about opportunities placed in front of me and only say “yes” to those things that I felt called to do. This meant learning to say “no” to some things, which has always been a struggle for me. I had to be more intentional about my prayer life and instead of chattering on endlessly to God, I learned how to be still and quiet and listen for the answers I sought.

I became more intentional about the books I read. I read some really inspiring books last year. I became more intentional about the sites I visited on the internet. There are some really inspirational blogs out there.

I am happy to report that being more intentional has become a way of life for me, (unlike many resolutions in the past). I highly recommend it as a resolution.

This year I’m hoping to really pursue the fruits of the Holy Spirit, which are: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Of course, the only way to have these is to continue to read the Bible and to pursue God and walk with Jesus.

I think the pursuit will be worth it. What about you? What are your resolutions this year? I’d love to hear them. Happy New Year.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

New Year’s Eve Should Always be a Celebration.

Make a little noise on New Year's Eve.
Make a little noise on New Year’s Eve!

I can’t believe it’s New Year’s Eve again. It seems like just yesterday that I was ringing in 2013 and now it’s almost over. Another year has passed. Where does the time go?

New Year’s Eve tends to be one of those competition celebrations. There’s so much pressure to do something fun and exciting. It’s always surrounded with a lot of hype that the event itself rarely measures up to. Then we have social media.

Everyone will take to Facebook with their awesome pictures of them having a great time and we sometimes feel that everyone’s life is more glamorous than our own. Is everyone on the planet having a fantastic New Year’s celebration? I doubt it.

I have come to see New Year’s Eve as the perfect opportunity to reflect on the year behind me. Was it an overall good year or an overall bad year? What did I get accomplished that I had hoped to? What didn’t I get done? Did I get any closer to being the wife, mother, friend, sister, daughter or person that I want to be? How did I do with relationships? Did I start any new ones? Did I strengthen current ones? Did I renew old ones? Did I end any?

My point is that New Year’s Eve is always worth celebrating. If it’s been a great year, we should thank God for it and celebrate its bounty. We should give thanks for all that we accomplished. I truly believe He celebrates with us and we honor Him when we recognize blessings.

If it’s been one of those tough years, we can celebrate its passing and be thankful that we had the strength to make it through as we pray for better days next year. God hears our prayers and all true hope comes from Him. Remember that hope is not like a wish; it’s active and expectant. Hope believes in results. “Be strong and courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord.” Psalm 31:24

So, whether you are attending a large party or celebrating at home as you watch the ball drop at midnight, I pray that you are filled with hope for the coming year. I pray that Jesus will wrap you in his arms as you bid 2013 goodbye and welcome in 2014. I pray that you are touched by grace and that your 2014 will be fabulous.

Happy New Year.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

Now What?

Even though Christmas day has passed, Jesus' story continues.
Even though Christmas Day has passed, Jesus’ story continues.

I spent a good chunk of yesterday taking down my Christmas decorations. I find that most people fit into two camps with Christmas decorations. There are those who can’t wait to get them taken down and get their houses back in order and there are those who like to leave them up as long as possible in order to squeeze every drop out of the holiday season.

Personally, I have to take mine down by New Year’s because my daddy drummed it into my head while I was growing up that they had to be down by New Year’s Eve or it was bad luck. I have no idea where that superstition came from, but my tree is down. I’m sure my daddy is proud.

While putting up decorations is always fun and exciting and finding extra help from children or teens who live in your house is always easy. Finding help taking them down can be like living in a ghost town. It’s a chore; not a fun event. We plan the big meal and plan for family and we plan for the perfect gifts for our loved ones to go under our trees. We go to church and sing Christmas carols and then it’s done. Now what do we do?

Not one radio station is playing Christmas music today. It can be a little bit depressing. But, I remind myself that a lot goes into planning for any new birth. We attend birthing classes. We read parenting books. We have baby showers. We prepare a room.

Ask any mama; no matter how difficult the birth of a child was; the birthing is easy compared to raising a child. But, the rewards and blessings are greater too. After all of the preparation, we eventually bring the baby home.

So, instead of being sad about Christmas being over, I think it’s important to remember that Christmas is the celebration of Jesus’ birth. It’s a beginning, not an isolated event. The baby that we have spent so much time and preparation for has an awesome story.

If you are feeling a little wistful about the passing of Christmas, pick up a Bible and check out one of the Gospels. The tiny babe from the manger walks on water, heals many, casts out demons, raises people from the dead and eventually dies for us all, so that we may live eternally.

The Christmas story is just beginning, even though the decorations have been put away and we are invited to come along and see what unfolds. If you take the journey with the Baby Jesus who becomes the man; you will be forever changed and that is the true miracle of Christmas. What do you think? Feel free to share.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

The Gift of Family

My sister and her husband are visiting with their three children. They are ages one, three and five. My sister is a busy woman. My kids are older now at twelve and fourteen, so when my sister visits, it’s a bit of a shock to the system. But, it’s a good shock.

I always see God in the faces of children. They always do and say things that make me chuckle if not laugh out loud. I always learn something from them. My three-year-old nephew, called me last week to tell me he wanted to play with my Buzz Lightyear rocket as soon as he arrives from New Jersey.

He also called my mother to tell her that he wanted to play with her pool rockets (which are really water torpedos), but he requested that she bring those up to Aunt Wendy’s house. Since they are pool toys, I have no earthly idea what he will do with them, but Mom complied.

My other nephew, the five-year-old, told me in July that he wanted a Lego toy for Christmas. He told me to write it down so I wouldn’t forget it. From the mouths of babes!

Three young children can be quite disruptive, but they can also be a wonderful blessing. They will move all kinds of knickknacks that I have sitting around and I will find them placed safely somewhere unexpected weeks after they are gone. I will find tiny super heroes under my couch in January and sometimes into February.

I always smile when that happens. They come in like little Tasmanian Devils and they leave their mark on my heart. I am thrilled that I get to spend Christmas with these little ones. I am thrilled that my children and I get to be part of their Christmas memories.

I hope that they will tell fun-filled stories of being at my house for Christmas to their kids someday. They are blessed to have both of my parents here to spend Christmas with and we are all blessed to be together for one more year.

My brother joins us with his dog and there’s always a picture of the entire crew, which of course, takes like fifty takes. It’s colorful chaos for a while, but it’s good chaos.

Sometimes chaos makes the best memories and when everything  gets really loud or too out of hand, I say a little prayer to remind myself that family is a special gift, a true blessing.

In my quest to appreciate the journey, I’m trying to remember that occasional chaos is good for the soul and a perfectly orderly house is for magazines. Maybe you agree? Feel free to share.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

The Day after Christmas

Take a moment to relax.
Take a moment to relax.

As I write this, I have had a Christmas feast for lunch and dinner. I have eaten way too many sweets and stayed up way too late. After all of the excitement that leads up to Christmas, the day after is a little dull.

We have been to church and celebrated and opened gifts. Clothes have been tried on and gift receipts have been located, so somethings can be returned. I have never been one of those people who can go out the day after Christmas at 6:00 AM  and fight the crowds for the “day after sales.”

Like a mama who has waited for the birth of a new baby, I’m tired. I’m happy, but tired. All of the hustle and bustle, all of the preparation was well worth it, but it’s kind of exhausting too.

What about you? Do you have a bit of a Christmas hangover? I’m not talking about the drinking kind, but the kind that happens the day after the big wedding or the first day on a new job or the first day of school.

Here’s what I think we should do. I think we should take a couple of days and just enjoy. Epiphany isn’t until January 6th. That’s when we celebrate the three wise men who visited Jesus. The birth, the shepherds and the wise men didn’t all happen in one day. We just depict it that way for the sake of Christmas plays.

The point is, what’s the rush in taking all of the decorations down? Why not take a few days and continue to enjoy this season. Take some time to recharge and soak it all in before we rush to the next season. Watch a movie or enjoy your family or maybe some peace and quiet. Take a walk and reflect.

Take some time and write down some special moments from this season. If they are bad moments, you can look back and see how far you have come. If they are good ones, you will treasure the details that you recorded, that you might not remember later.

If you tried a new recipe and liked it, make a note. I always forget what we tried and liked and what we didn’t like. I’m trying to learn to enjoy the journey and to appreciate the season. I think slowing down a bit, if only for a little while, is a good way to do that.

I’m going to try to rest and relax. We have a brand new year on the horizon. Care to join me?

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas!

I’m assuming if you are reading this, the gifts have been unwrapped and maybe you’re taking a moment to yourself with a cup of coffee, a Sabbath moment if you will. I hope that you have a fridge full of food and a turkey roasting in the oven or that you are planning on joining friends or family later for dinner. Maybe you didn’t even have to cook!

I pray that your heart is full of peace and joy on this Christmas morning. I pray that this Advent Season has been intentional and meaningful. I pray that your heart is filled with the hope that comes from the birth of the Christ Child.

But, if today is a sad day for you, if this day is difficult, I pray that you give your heart to God and let Him heal you. The baby we celebrate today grew up to give a very famous sermon, the first in the Book of Matthew and he tells us, “God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4

These words are from Jesus himself. He became one of us and he gets it. If you mourn today, know that you are not alone and that God cares deeply for you. Rest in His arms and seek His comfort. Keep your eyes and ears open for people who reach out to you. He may have sent them.

If your Christmas is a fabulous one, pay attention to any nudges you may get to reach out to someone in need. There’s always room for one more plate at the table. Right?

I ask that you please join me in a prayer for the soldiers who can’t be with their families today because they are fighting to keep us free. They have given up their family celebrations so that we can continue to have ours in any way we see fit. Please pray for those who mourn. Please pray for peace, even if only for a day. Please pray that all of mankind will know the wonder of Christ’s birth.

I hope you have a very Merry Christmas!

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

The Hope of Christmas Eve

An angel brought good news on Christmas Eve.
An angel brought good news on Christmas Eve.

It’s Christmas Eve at last. I have tried diligently to be more intentional this Advent Season and to really seek God and I have found Him in so many places, from Christmas decorations to Wal-Mart of all places.

Tonight is such an exciting night and we should all be giddy like little children are with the hope and the promise of it all. Tonight some two thousand years ago, humanity was changed forever. Tonight, in a stable in Bethlehem, a young girl went into labor and a baby took his very first breath, a breath that would eventually guarantee salvation for the entire world.

God Almighty, came into the world as a tiny, helpless human infant. The enormity of it is astounding.

The angel said to the shepherds, “Don’t be afraid! I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people. The Savior-yes the Messiah, the Lord has been born today in Bethlehem in the city of David. And you will recognize him by this sign: You will find a baby wrapped snugly in strips of cloth, lying in a manger. Suddenly the angel was joined by a vast host of others-the armies of heaven-praising God and saying, “Glory to God in highest heaven, and peace on earth to those with whom God is pleased.” Luke 2:10-14

What do you think the shepherds said? “Let’s go to Bethlehem! Let’s see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.” Luke 2:15

Did they debate it among themselves? Did they sleep on it and check it out in the morning. Nope. They went. God sent them angels and they went. Ever notice how those who have the least material wealth often have the most faith? They went and they found what they were seeking.

The scripture goes on to say they found Mary and Joseph and the baby lying in the manger and they told everyone they ran into their story. Then they went back to their flocks “glorifying and praising God.”

The shepherds had an encounter with Jesus and they were never the same. They just had to tell everyone they ran into about their good news. They couldn’t keep it to themselves. It was too good not to share.

We can still encounter Jesus in the same way the shepherds did, not face-to-face on this side of heaven, but we can still encounter him and when we do, when we really open up our hearts to him and all that he is, like the shepherds, we are never the same. We just have to share the good news. The joy is too much to contain. We have the need to glorify and praise God.

So on this Christmas Eve, we should all be excited and joyful at the wonder of it all. We should seek him. The entire world went to bed lost that night in Bethlehem, but when the sun rose a savior had been born and the whole world had hope and that’s something we all need more of. May the hope of Jesus fill your heart this Christmas Eve.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

The Story of St. Nicholas

One of the many depictions of St. Nicholas
One of the many depictions of St. Nicholas

Christmas is getting very close, so I decided to do a little research on Santa Claus. I was curious as to how he fell into the mix of our Christmas celebration. I also wondered if there was a deeper meaning to the “jolly old elf,” than just bringing gifts to good girls and boys.

You guessed it! He has a beautiful back story. It was a long time ago, so much is considered legend, but here’s what I found consistently. Nicholas was born in the 3rd century in what is now the southern coast of Turkey. It was Greek at the time. His parents were quite wealthy and they were devout Christians and raised him to love Jesus.

They died in an epidemic while we was still very young. He decided to follow Jesus as closely as possible and is said to have given all of his inheritance away to the needy and sick people who lived in his village of Myra. The people were so impressed with his generosity and his faith walk that they requested that he be made Bishop of Myra. Nicholas became a bishop at a very young age.

One of his most famous stories of generosity was to three poor girls with no dowry. Back in that time, if a girl had nothing to give to a future husband, no one would marry her and she would be sold into slavery or prostitution. When it came time for the oldest daughter to marry, a bag of gold was found in her socks that were hanging out to dry. The same thing happened with the second daughter. The father just had to know who the secret benefactor was, so he hid and caught Nicholas while he was placing the gold in the third daughter’s sock.

The father was very thankful, but Nicholas swore him to secrecy, so the story was never told until after his death. That’s where hanging up the stockings by the chimney comes from.

Nicholas was also known to be especially kind to children and sailors and there are many stories about him offering aid to them. He was imprisoned by Emperor Diocletian who ruthlessly persecuted Christians for their faith. Nicholas refused to renounce his faith and so he was imprisoned with many other priests and bishops. Constantine set Nicholas free when he came to power.

Do you remember who is credited with teaching Constantine about Jesus? Yep, his mama, Helena. Never underestimate the power of a faithful mama.

Nicholas died on December 6th in 343 AD in Myra. He became a celebrated saint very quickly and thousands of churches were named after him. During the Protestant Reformation, Martin Luther frowned on anything to do with saints and he fell out of favor. But, the Dutch refused to let him go. They called him Sinter Klass and they brought him with them as they emigrated to America in the 1700’s.

He still wasn’t huge until 1882 when a poet named Clement Clarke Moore wrote a poem anonymously called, “A Visit from St. Nicholas.” The poem went viral and we know it today as “The Night Before Christmas.” In 1881, a cartoonist named Thomas Nast, gave him a red suit with white trim and our modern Santa Claus was born.

But, I think it’s awe-inspiring that his roots are what Christians should all strive for, loving God, being generous, taking care of those less fortunate than we are and standing up for what we believe in. We could all use a little more Nicholas. Now you know!

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

 

Seeking God in Shopping Chaos

Sometimes we can see God in unlikely places, if we look.
Sometimes we can see God in unlikely places, if we look.

We’re getting into the Christmas homestretch. This weekend is the last shopping weekend we have before the big day. It’s likely to be crazy on the roads and in stores, especially grocery stores. But, while we are all planning on making the perfect Christmas dinner, maybe we should try to keep a few things in mind to help keep our shopping experiences in perspective.

I actually had to go to Wal-Mart twice yesterday (lucky me, right?), and this really worked. I prayed before I went, that God would give me the grace to see the good in others while I was out and I actively searched for it. I had several Wal-Mart employees ask me if I needed help finding anything. When the aisles were so crowded, that I had to wait for someone to finish getting what they were looking for, before I could even walk by, I made an effort to smile at them. Most were very apologetic for the hold up and returned my smile.

I reminded myself of the unbelievable abundance that we are blessed with in this country. There was plenty of flour and sugar. There was no rationing. I can buy butter right off the shelf. I don’t have to churn my own. There was plenty of milk and eggs and bread. There was plenty. We sometimes forget in our abundance, what a blessing that is. I may have had to wait for a few minutes, but there was plenty.

When I saw a cart with a brightly colored pink bicycle with streamers on it, I tried to picture the excited face of the child who will be receiving it on Christmas morning. Do you remember your first bicycle? Do you remember the excitement you had when you saw it beside the tree? Then I saw a motorized “Hello Kitty” ride on and I had to grin thinking of the fun that child would have on Christmas morning.

I decided to go into the store knowing that it would be crowded, knowing that it would be a three-ring circus, but with the intent to look for God, just as I have tried to look for Him this entire season. I found Him in so many faces yesterday. There was even an older gentleman with snowy white hair who I ran into several times as I went up and down the aisles who picked at me with a twinkle in his eye, about all of the contents in my cart.

When I went to check out, a cashier approached me and told me she would open a line for me. That has never happened to me at Wal-Mart before. So here’s my challenge to you on this busy shopping weekend.

Say a prayer before you leave your house. Ask for patience and ask for the grace to see the good. Ask God to show you some wonder of the season and see what happens. You might be surprised. I was! Be sure to let me know if something fabulous happens.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂