Anger management

There’s a  lot of anger swirling around at the moment. Our government has shut down and we are about to hit the debt ceiling again. Real people are not getting paid and have either been furloughed or are working for free. The legislative branch and the executive branch of our government are acting like a bunch of kids in different gangs (picture Spanky and Alfalfa from Our Gang not the Hell’s Angels). Every time I turn on the news, or check Facebook or the internet the volume has been turned up. Americans are angry and we have a right to be.

Anger is a God-given emotion and there is nothing wrong with it in its place. There’s something called righteous anger and that’s the type of anger that we feel when we or someone we care about,  have been lied to or stolen from or mistreated. This is the anger that most of us are feeling right now and while it may be justified, we really need to be careful. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 4:26-27, “And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.”

Uhoh, that verse mentioned the devil. Modern Christians don’t like to talk about Satan much which is unfortunate because the silence has allowed him to run wild. When I Googled “Satan in the Bible,” 183 verses appeared. That’s an awful lot of writing in the scripture for us to ignore it. I think there may be a misconception about Satan among Christians. We are saved; we are believers; so Satan is no longer a threat to us. Therein lies the rub. I heard Joyce Meyer once say that Satan knows that he can’t win the Christian soul, so he doesn’t try for it. He wreaks havoc among Christians by distracting them from doing what they are called to do.

This really spoke to me. Satan has been called the great deceiver. Do you remember what he said to Eve in the garden? He asked Eve, “Did God really say…?” He made her question God’s command. He is referred to in the scripture  as a thief, a liar and the deceiver of the whole world. What does this have to do with anger? While there is nothing wrong with anger in itself; when we become consumed with it, it controls us. Once it controls us, it can lead to hate which is the opposite of the fruit of the spirit, love. When we allow ourselves to be controlled by anger, we open our hearts up to the darkness and deceit that come from our enemy. We begin to demonize the person or people that we are angry with and not the act. We can find ourselves on a slippery slope.

So what can we do? Are we not allowed to be angry with our leaders who we feel are not representing us properly? Of course we are allowed to be angry, but what do we do with it? First, we need to pray for our leaders on both sides. Pray that God will convict them to do the right thing. Pray that they will turn their hearts to God and do his will. Pray this prayer often, not just once. Then write a letter to your congressman or send an e-mail. Sign petitions if you feel lead to do so. But after we have prayed, after we have done what we can, we need to “let go and let God” and turn down the rhetoric and get back to doing the good work we have been called to do.

In other words, we need to put our eyes back on Christ and away from the evils of this world. “Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.” Romans 12:21. I realize that this is much easier said than done, but I really think we need to try because there’s no way anything good can come out of all of this anger and hate that is swirling around. Let’s remember that God is in control and that he has a plan. Let’s start praying about this. Will you join me?

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

Life’s Seasons

The creek is beautiful in every season.
The creek is beautiful in every season.

I took a walk today and definitely felt the nip of fall in the air. I have already heard my daughter say “I can’t wait for fall.” Initially, I found myself agreeing with her. Then I started thinking about how we are always in a rush to get to the next season. You know what I’m talking about. When you are in middle school, you can’t wait to get to high school. When you are in high school, you can’t wait to get to college. When you are in college, you can’t wait to get out and get that first job. When we date, we can’t wait to get married; then we can’t wait to have a baby. The list is endless about how we like to rush life or try to speed up time.

Now there’s a difference between looking forward to the next season with optimism and missing out on the current one because we are obsessed with the next one. I have always struggled with this issue. I’m a planner and I love to plan all of my next steps. There’s a plaque I once saw that read, “We plan; God laughs.” I feel like whoever wrote it, had my name on it. I have learned that planning gives me a sense of control and therein lies the rub. I like to control my surroundings and my future.

God has a different plan. He says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10 NIV  He says, ” For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV  Is he saying I need to stop worrying about what’s coming next and start enjoying the season I am in right now? Is he saying that he has his own plans for me? I believe that is exactly what he is saying. I think he’s saying, “I’ve got this. You just worry about doing what is in front of you today, in this season, in this moment.”

Well, that’s a load off, but focusing on today is easier said than done. So I am asking myself, what season am I in and I’m asking you, what season are you in? Is it one of growth? Is it one of rest? Maybe it’s a really tough season, a valley time. Maybe it’s an exciting time or a frightening time. Maybe it’s a bone crushing painful time. Whatever the season we are in, I think we should stop and take a deep breath, look around and recognize where we are. If it’s a happy season, give thanks for it; enjoy it. If it’s a painful or sad season, ask for continued strength and know that God is with you and no season lasts forever. If it’s a season of rest, savor it; because there may be mountains to climb up ahead.

Being still is difficult for me, but something I’m really working on. Living in the moment and appreciating this day without looking forward is also tough, but with God’s help, I’m learning. How are you doing with your current season? Think about it and then go enjoy the last blast of summer as fall edges in. It will be Christmas before you know it.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

The Fog

Sometimes some fog can produce beautiful results.
Sometimes some fog can produce beautiful results.

It was foggy when I was driving my kids to school this morning. The sun was up and burning through it and it was quite beautiful. I live in a rural area, so there were pastures and ponds covered in it. I could make out shapes, but I couldn’t see clearly. I remember, when I was growing up that my mother always gave us a “fog warning” on days we were expecting fog. “We have to leave early this morning; it’s foggy out.” As a child, I never understood that. Why were we supposed to dislike fog?

As an adult, I get it. Mornings are always crazy and as a mother of two, I know that they will push the time to leave the house for school til the last second. It’s rush, rush, rush! We are in a hurry and the fog slows us down. We don’t like to slow down. We like to go, go, go! We like to know what lies ahead of us on the road. The fog obscures our view.

Sometimes, our lives get covered in fog. We are in a season where we just can’t see what is in front of us. We can’t see what lies around the next curve. It frightens and frustrates us and we don’t like it. I have come to understand, that there are times when God wants us to focus on Him, not on the road, but on Him. Sometimes, He has to slow us down to a crawl to get us to focus on what is important or to hear what He is trying to communicate to us. These are the times when I really have to take it one day at a time, which is very difficult for me because I like to plan everything months in advance. I also prefer megaphone moments, but God’s way is often a whisper. Sometimes the fog is a short season and sometimes it seems to linger for years. I think the key is to learn to embrace the fog.

The fog is God’s way of growing our faith. We don’t have to know what’s coming next because our Heavenly Father does. We don’t have to fear because He has our back. And when we get really brave, we give Jesus the wheel. That’s when we really have to fasten our seat belts  because wherever He takes us, it will be a wild ride, but one so worth taking. Have you had any fog in your life recently? Please feel free to share.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

 

Enough

Birds always seem to have enough.
Birds always seem to have enough.

When do we have enough? I was sitting at the kitchen table on a Saturday morning while my husband was paying the bills. He was commenting about having enough left over to live on. I found myself praying once again, about money. We always have enough, but rarely any extra. For some reason, the story of manna and the Israelites kept popping into my head. I decided to go and look it up.

I hadn’t read the story in a long time and I found the details fascinating.  In Exodus 16, God tells Moses that he is going to rain down food from heaven. The people are to gather up as much food as they need for the day. He tells Moses that he will test the people on this. Of course, being humans and doing what humans do, there are some who break the rules and gather more than they need. In the morning, it has a terrible stench and is filled with maggots. Yuck! Verse 18 tells us that everyone had just enough, no leftovers.

This idea of enough really got me to thinking. When do we have enough? If I have plenty to eat at every meal, is that enough? If I have clothes and shoes to wear each day, is that enough? I really struggle with that one. I always long for a new wardrobe when the seasons change, but as I am doing my family’s laundry, I can never find enough hangers for the clothes I have. Surely, I have enough. What about cars and electronic gadgets? If I have a reliable vehicle to pick my kids up from school with, does it need to be new and shiny? What about my cell phone? Does is really need to be “smart” or will something to make and take calls suffice?

I could go on indefinitely about the many material blessings I have been given. Still, I often find myself longing for more. Maybe it’s my nature or maybe it’s because our fallen world teaches us we never have enough. Maybe it’s a little of both. Either way, I always find instruction when I go back to the Bible. God’s command to the Israelites, was to take as much as they needed, not as much as they wanted. Uhoh! I think I have some work to do.

My granddaddy always said,  “You are old enough, where your wants won’t hurt you.” I never liked that phrase, however, I think he was onto something. He was paraphrasing God’s command to the Israelites. I think I really need to work on my wants versus my needs. How about you? How do you do with wants and needs? How much is enough? Feel free to share.

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂

God Loves Average

God takes average and makes it fabulous!
God takes average and makes it fabulous!

I live in a town where the norm is above average. Everyone likes to talk about how their kids are gifted and everyone is into sports. Many of the parents here truly believe their son or daughter is going to get a college scholarship for baseball, soccer, football, name the sport. We are in a super competitive environment. Don’t get me wrong; it’s a great place to raise kids. It’s safe; the people are friendly and the vast majority attend church. However, if you have children who don’t like to compete or if  you as parents, don’t like to compete, then you could find yourself labeled, the dreaded “Average.”

No one wants to be average. Everyone wants to be above average. Right? Average is uninteresting and downright boring. As we begin another school year, I was contemplating the concept of average.  I looked it up in a dictionary and found: ordinary, usual, typical. That’s not that bad, except when you are a teenager and you want so badly to get noticed or when you are a middle schooler and you want so desperately to get put in art class, but you get put in P.E. with all of the super jocks again. Maybe you begin to think that God just loves athletes and beautiful people more than everyone else.

Unless, you pick up a Bible, when I read the Bible, I find that God loves average. If David had been a, 7 feet tall warrior, it wouldn’t have been a miracle that he took Goliath down (with a simple slingshot). If Moses wasn’t  a stutterer, it wouldn’t have been quite as miraculous that he was the one God sent to tell Pharaoh to let his people go. If  Mary would have been a pampered princess, the prophecy of Jesus’ birth would have never been fulfilled. The Bible is full of these examples, average, ordinary people called to glorify God in some way.

God loves average, ordinary people because they give Him the greatest opportunity to shine. They also tend to be more humble than the mighty. When God calls us to do something, it doesn’t matter who we are or what we think we are capable of.  After all, the Angel Gabriel told Mary, “For nothing is impossible with God.” I think we should believe that truth and start living it.

Average is simply a title we give each other. God can take average and make it fabulous! Let’s encourage each other and especially our kids to remember that we are all special and unique to our Creator. Thankfully, He has the final word. What do you think about average?

Have an awesome day!

Wendy 🙂